Birthday Ideas & Advice

Hello guys , I am writing this to you who are desperate or try to find out where their mistakes come from.What you will read here , may not fix all of your problems but I think it will help you a bit with the girls .

So hello , did you ask yourself -how to begin a conversation , how to continue it to make it interesting ,and one of the most important things- how to read the body language.

Ok first I will start with the so called "attitude".You must be convinced that you will succeed.You way of thinking must be

that you will make it and everything will be fine.

First you have to make an impression – to have equal chances with the other guys out there who approach the hot girls all the time its a must that you – dont use the pullover that you grandma’ gave you for your last birthday or some bad shoes, because woman- look at the shoes .Get some new clothes, try to follow the fashion a bit (I know this sounds crazy but if you want to look attractive when you get spotted but a woman thats the way).Dont be with some nerd made hair , try to make it normal , use 5 mins to look at some magazine to see what I am talking about.

Ok , ready with the clothes, it comes the attitude.No one likes guys who dress well but when they speak they forget all words or they just dont what to say becuse they are simply stupid (like it happens many times).First dont be afraid to approach a woman (they DONT bite) , a good opener to say is try to get her opinion on something, like for example

if you are in a food store you can ask her about some food (be sure that she has it in her so she actually knows about the stuff that you want to ask).Tell her that you and your friend made a bet on something regarding this food , that will most likely make her think :He only wants someone to ask opinion from and nothing else.If the conversation is going well be sure that you are the first to tell her "bye" , and dont say your name if you are not asked to. That way you will remain mysterious , and woman like mysteries . Dont forget the eye contact , it shows that you are interested, but do not stare,because this may be scary for some people.Glance away for a second and then return your eyes on her and look her in the eyes, not somewhere else because you will look like a freakin’ maniac who wants to get laid with the first woman who meets.

About getting the phone number- woman often make the trick "give me your number and I will call you" .. well most likely she wont call you , so you must be the one that gets her phone number and if you say you will call her at that time , do as you said because not doing that shows that you are not a serious man.

You MUST be funny.Making a woman laugh takes you 1 step closer to what you want – some kind of relashionship or even one-night stand.Dont start talking about some serios things and dont ARGUE, no one likes to argue , just talk normal (not very fast (it wil show that you are nervous/needy witch will be understood by the woman as insecure  and you dont want this).Dont take yourself too seriosly , make jokes but dont overdo it .

Now lets talk a bit that body language and the expression that is this stuff doing.First notice the womans’s eyes if has delated pupils – this means 3 things more often.First if she is drunk or has used drugs , second – if its night its normal to have dilated pupils.But if its a day and you see her pupils like that- you can be sure that she is having good time.THis was used from the chinese people long time ago when they were selling stuff and they were guessing will the person like their things or not but looking at the pupils

The other interesting think about body language is the head/hear- well you have seen on the TV  (for some shampoo) when woman tilts her head to one side and perhaps flicking her hair.This often means she is confortable in the company she is in at that very moment.

Ok I am going to say it again – hot girls get approach all the time , and if you want to succeed you must be different.

Forget about footbal or other man stuff that you do because this is absolutely boring to the woman that you are talking to and make her think "Pff, just the next jerk". And you dont want this , do you?

About being different- dont make stupid compliments on her hair , eyes and stuff like that.They are thinking "This one is trying to get laid with me by saying the exact same things I heard yesterday, or no wait,even I heard them 2 days ago aswell"

Try to be unsual and unpredicatble.This will most likely keep the interest of that woman for you.

About the date stuff- FORGET ABOUT THE MOVIE.Going to the cinema is saying to them "hmm this one is not more clever that the prevous one".And here it comes to being unsual and aswell using your imagination.God gave you brain

and you have to use it.Aswell you must think with the bigger head of yours and not the smaller if you get me right.

Dont let her control you.Woman often try to control man and you will soon become her "doggy" and you dont want this .

Make everything that you are in control of every situation and you lead the way , not her.For example dont say to her

"Where do you like to go tonight " , instead try this "Tonight at 20.00 I wait you , be ready". By saying that you are exacly telling her what to do (to wait you at 20.00 o’clock) and in the same time you keep the place where you go as a secret .

Making it a secret will make it more interesting and "interesting " is what you want.AND never be late – you told her 20.00 then be there, its better to be "3 hours earlier that 3 minutes later"said Shekspire and he was right.

Now – WHAT NOT TO SAY ON A DATE:

First dont speak about ex girlfriends , that you will make the girl you are with most likely angry .

Second- dont tell her she is fat even if she is .No woman wants to be treated as fat.

Third-dont stare at other woman – you are with her and you mustn’t do that mistake.

Forth-dont go for serious talk on the first date.Try to use casual normal conversation.IF you want to understand a woman then you must LISTEN.Dont stop her talking because you wanted to say something.Wait until she finishes, then its your turn.

One of the very annoying things for woman is man who does not shave , so please guys make that thing -shave yourself.You are not living in the middle ages ,are you?

Dont make the mistake to get many things only to express yourself how much you are into her.One flower is ok,overdoing it will make you uninteresting for the woman.When you make plans for first date- try to make it not too indimidating because it may turn the girl you like off.Begin with something normal (but not something that is used every time- like a movie or drink in some bar (remember you are doing this because you want to be different)).For example you can go in the park- its nice there and if its night has a nice view at the stars .The park at night can pass as romantic if your goal is to do that.REMEMBER:your voice when you speak has to be calm (not nervous) , and you must make some pauses.

Dont talk too much , leave that to the woman. ( learn to be a good listener , otherwise it wont work).

Remember aswell that when you take her to play some sport , she may act like she does not know it and she wants you to teach her.Most often dont fall for that- they know how to play most of the times , they just want you do it for them and that is very good sign that she is into you.

Dont be a jerk , have a life , and dont be needy.Learn to be kind to all girls who are around you , not only that one you have feelings for.If you are not from the ones that are kind to all girls – you cant expect to get a woman yourself.Woman are more contact people than man are , witch means – if she wants to understand something about you – bad or good, she will most likely understand it and guess what if you are acting like an idiot… – so if you are, its time to stop and change your way of thinking.And be yourself , dont use a mask , a woman will understand sooner or later this , so you better dont do it – just be who you are, and you will find a woman who loves you for what you are, and you have to love that woman for who she is and – isn’t-also . Hope the things I said will be in help in someone of you.Thanks for reading.

One of the most difficult things is getting a hot chic to like you especially if everyone else is after her attention. If you are not a footballer or a superstar, you can forget having it easy with girls. But all is not lost as girls will always be as predictable as men are.

The saying that guys and gals are so different holds true but at the same time they are so similar in many ways in their own gender that you can always know what reaction a certain action will bring about. Some of the things that can help you win a girls heart forever are discussed in this informative and useful article.

How to Easily Approach a Hot Girl Hint # 1: Try and Flirt With Women

You will need to gather enough confidence within yourself to be able flirt. Flirting could be as easy as exchanging a simple eye contact with the girl you want to date. This is the first unspoken indication to a girl that you like her and would want to talk about it. Girls like to be given attention and noticed for their beauty or any other good qualities. Nothing actually hurts a girl more than to realize that no one shows interest in them.

How to Easily Approach a Hot Girl Hint # 2: Be a Person of Your Own

To easily get a girl to start liking you, you need to show her that you are person of your own. People like people that seem busy with their life, people who are just not some drifters. Remember girls are intrinsically made to look for a man that can take care of them, so they are usually particular to see if you have your act together. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you seem to have a passion for what you do.

How to Easily Approach a Hot Girl Hint # 3: Make an Impression on Her

Ok. Don’t overdo it here. No one is looking for superman here. But girls really like a guy who stands out in one way or the other. They will take pride to know that you are different from the crowd because you do one thing better than the rest. If your strength point has anything to do with her the better although any nice quality that makes you stand out is ok.

How to Easily Approach a Hot Girl Hint # 4: Make Her Laugh

It helps you to have an easier time trying to win a girls heart by cracking some jokes. If you don’t have a sense of humor to write home about, think of a popular movie and act some of the funny scenes. One thing that I have found that makes a girl laugh heartily is playing a mime game where you act the role of a famous movie character and she gets to guess who that character was.

You can take turns at this and it makes a good game while you are relaxing. You could also play the “dare” game where you dare each other to do things like act like a monkey eating a banana…as long as it’s safe. Don’t go tight rope walking here man.

How to Easily Capture a Hot Girls Heart Advice # 5: Compliment Her on Her Strengths

One of the best ways to get around a girl or any human being for that matter is to always notice their good points and commend them for that. Everyone wants to feel important or good in one way or the other. Be careful here and be honest, otherwise she will know you are just faking it to get your way around her. Complimenting a girl on her beauty, character, disposition, etc makes her feel good and know that you are a sensitive man who cares. And girls like being noticed and cared for …remember!

How to Easily Capture a Hot Girls Heart Advice # 6: Be Romantic with Her

Girls are very sensitive to things of love. Make her feel you care by noticing the small little things that men are known to never be keen on. You should always remember the important dates like her birthday, your first date, valentines etc. Send her gifts on s[special occasions and take her out for dinner if you feel you have broken the distance barriers.

How to Easily Capture a Hot Girls Heart Advice # 7: Talk to the Girl

If you have feeling but have never verbally or by implication expressed them, they will never know that you have an interest in them. Girls don’t take things for granted and you have to make the first approach, if you feel good and wait for her to make a move, then you might wait for a long time. Engage in small talk at first that really do not imply much, just some friendly banter. That will keep the ball rolling and prepare her for a friendship at first.

You can gradually graduate to more personal talks with her depending on how you gauge her reception to your advances. Talk to her about your ambitions and dreams and fears. Likewise ask her about her fears, ambitions and fears; most importantly listen actively to what she says.

How to Easily Capture a Hot Girls Heart Advice # 8: Close the Touch Gap

It takes time to get to a point where you can break the touch barrier when you are after a girl. You can do this however in the most politest way by offering your hand when she steps out of a car or stair case, offer her an elbow when you are going through a crowd of people, rub her hands if its cold etc. These are polite contacts that cannot be translated to being creepy. However if you notice that she is uncomfortable, instantly break contact and that will even earn you some marks by respecting her wishes. It means you listen and notice her concerns.

How to Easily Capture a Hot Girls Heart Advice # 9: Take Her Out On a Date

Once you are sure she has started warming up to you. It’s now time to take it to the next level. Ask her out on a date. I would recommend a day time date to avoid looking suspicious. Remembers at this time you still haven’t won her trust. Not just yet and you want to play your cards right.

On your first date, avoid intrusive and implicit subjects like falling in love, past previous boyfriends/girlfriends. Make the first date a day out for friends; by the end of it all she will have learned so much towards your direction that things are better left unsaid. Imagination is a sure recipe for a relationship growing out of the individual confines. Let it simmer.

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Separated but still in love with your ex? Maybe, your Ex wants you back too, so do not lose time; grab this opportunity and get him by your side. There might not be another chance. This is the best love advice anyone can give you.

Many couple gets separated because of diverse reasons but still find them loving the same person that they left behind. Some may even regret their act but it is never too late to reconcile because he may also desire you as never before.

Here are some signs your Ex wants you back.

Firstly he is ever ready to help you in any situation you get stuck in, even if it is in the middle of the night. You know that your ex is just one phone call away. He can call you several times to know if you are fine and if you need him. Furthermore you are the first person he will come towards to seek advice, even if he hurts you again and ask you for love advice about his new girlfriend. But please do not get irritated, maybe he just wants to know if he still has a place in your heart. Cunning as they might be those exes! This is one of the common signs your ex wants you back. In addition he never misses your birthday although he used to forget when you were together. He wishes you for every precious and important event and anniversary that you spent with him, and always remind you about them. Spending most his time with you will be his main objective whether it is out for dinner or a nice movie at home. Jealousy is yet another sign he wants you back. He can not bear someone else by your side, he wants to be the only man and the priority in your life. You will find him always criticizing your surrounding and friends because all what he desires is to distance you from your world and be completely his.

Today, frequenting clubs is no longer the most popular way to find a date, as more and more options are available for the single individual. From the advancements in technology to lesser-known arenas, there are plenty of places to consider when on the lookout for the opposite sex. Below you will find six different places to mull over when joining the ranks of the dating pool:

1) The Internet

Each year, millions of people are involved in some sort of flirting, relationship-type contact, and “getting-to-know-better” conversation across the World Wide Web, including emails, instant messaging, and chat room interaction. The number of dating sites on the Internet has increased over the years, accommodating a wide-range of online daters looking for love, companionship, friendship, and marriage. With a host of specific searches, detailed profiles, and photos – the Internet allows singles to selectively choose their potential partners by scanning information that others post. To succeed in Internet dating, a realistic photo, truthful information, and well-written profiles are highly recommended.

2) Speed Dating Events

With the prospect of meeting 20 to 30 people in one moment, the concept that “first impressions are very important” is taken to a new level. Since many people can tell within a few seconds to minutes if another grabs their attention, a series of many short “dates” is sometimes successful (if not entertaining). Usually, organized events hold 3 to 8-minute intervals, where an organizer rings a bell to signal the changing of participants. At the end of the event, contact information is exchanged when participants share the same interest in one another. Since everyone is looking for a date – it also takes the guesswork out of identifying a single individual.

3) Singles Cruises

There are plenty of singles events that focus on catering to individuals looking for a date and organize unique gatherings that allow singles to get to know one another better. One of the most popular of these events includes singles cruises, which usually transport individuals to tropical destinations, such as the Caribbean, for fun-in-the-sun opportunities to find Mr. or Mrs. Right. Additional singles events to consider include winter holidays and wine-tasting parties.

4) Opposite-Sex Related Venues

When women are looking for proper suitors, and men are searching for their next date, it is suggested to think outside of the box and pay a visit to venues that the opposite sex usually frequents. For woman, this may include sporting events and the local gym, while men should consider visiting dance classes (salsa), and fitness classes (yoga, pilates and aerobics). The easy part is locating potential dates – the hard part is striking up successful conversation.

5) Weddings

Many unattached individuals mingle with other singles who attend a wedding by sitting next to them during dinner or the reception; asking for a dance; and offering to retrieve drinks from the bar. To get the lowdown on who is available at the wedding, usually the bride or groom can point you in the right direction.

6) Holiday Parties

For some, Christmas and New Year’s Eve parties often end with the exchange of phone numbers for singles who after a few drinks are able to strike up decent conversation with another. Throughout the year, there are many other holiday parties and special occasions that open the gateway for single mingling, including birthday get-togethers, housewarming parties, BBQ’s, Thanksgiving feasts, and Valentine’s Day dances geared towards singles.

If you want to find out how to save a relationship from going on a downward spiral, the answer is effective communication.

Yes, communicating effectively can save your relationship from imminent doom. If you look at it, the reason why you are having troubles with your partner is because of the lack of communication. Let’s take a look at some of the most common things lovers fight about:

Jealousy

Forgetting important dates (e.g. anniversary, birthday)

Arriving late at a date

Pet peeves

Stress

Most of these, if not all, stem from the lack of effective communication. Why else would you be mad at your partner when you see them talking to another member of the opposite sex? Why would you get into a huge fight about a menial thing like forgetting a birthday? When you’re stressed you tend to be hot-headed and everything the other tells you come off as annoying. All of these are due to the lack of effective communication.

You have to learn how to tell each other things in a decent and mature way. It doesn’t matter how difficult the thing is, as long as you convey them in an acceptable manner. Fights don’t ignite when two people are communicating well.

Most couples fail to recognize this important bit of information. Once you have lost the ability to communicate well, things will not turn out just as you’d like them to. If you are mad about something your partner has done, don’t yell at the top of your lungs or resort to violence. Sit down and talk to him/her as an adult. Things will be better resolved this way.

There are tons of information available out there on how to save a relationship but all of them starts by being able to communicate well with your partner.

Just break up?

Your relationship doesn’t have to be over and in fact, couples have been reuniting all over the world using this very effective system I’m about to share with you.

Have you been single all your life and you now want to enter the playing field? Or have you been dating different women and do not seem to end up doing a second date? Maybe it is time to reassess your dating skills if indeed you are doing the right things to achieve a successful date. Here are some advices for the so called unsuccessful male dater.

Check your hygiene. You may not be aware of it but you may have serious problems with your hygiene that seem to turn your dates off. Make a breath check by going to the dentist to eliminate the problem. Also, ask a couple of strangers to tell you how you smell. You will definitely get better and more honest answers than if you ask your friend.

If you find out that you indeed have body odour, seek professional help as these problems are usually the trickier ones that cannot be solved instantly by experimenting on different types of deodorants, colognes and perfumes. These chemicals may even have a negative reaction on your body chemistry and might cause more harm than good. A hygienist is a good person to consult about it.

Never be late for a date. Most women find tardiness very rude and it often sets them off even before the date starts. If possible, offer to pick her from her house. This way, if you will have to call in late, she will less likely to be pissed off because she is in the comfort of her own home.

Assess your manners. An ill-mannered date is one of a female daters nightmares. Choose your words and crack healthy wholesome jokes. Never get drunk on a date as you might end up acting weird or being rude to people or even your date. Do not ever check out other girls when you are with a date as that is actually the rudest thing a male date can do to any woman. Never ask about sex if she is obviously not comfortable with the topic. She might think that you are a pervert because you seem to like talking about sex very much even on a first date.

Listen to her. The key to a womans heart is listening. But more than listening, you should engage yourself in what she wants to say. Respond and share your views about it. If she is sharing about her past dates and you seem to be uncomfortable with it, suggest that you may want to move on to another topic, probably more about what she would like to look forward to in an ideal date. If she talks about her family, be as attentive as you can. Learn as much as you can about her family, her background and be sure to remember it by heart.

Most importantly, remember her birthday as it might soon be one of the more important dates in your calendar. By the end of the date, you should have already know some personal details about her and her family, her job and other basic things about her. If by the end of the night, you realize that you do not even know where she lives, brace yourself for another potential let down.

Lastly, accompany her to her door.

The idea of her letting you know where she lives is actually a good sign that another date can be discussed soon. Thank her for the wonderful time and tell her that you certainly wish that you can do it again. If you like her enough, you may promise to call them whether or not you think she wants you to call her. She would actually send you some signal if she does not, which is not entirely bad but at least you will know at once. But hopefully and if you follow the abovementioned advices, she will be telling you that she would actually look forward to your call.

Do you have no problem find the perfect card and sending birthday wishes to friends, family and co-worker, but freeze up when you have to send birthday wishes to your boyfriend?  Are your searching for the perfect birthday greeting card, word or sentiment and keep drawing a blank?  Don’t fret; we’ve got some great advice to make your beau’s birthday card perfect.

The Funny Birthday Greeting Card

Everyone loves a good laugh.  Keeping a light and funny tone in your birthday greeting card is a good way to avoid an overly sappy sentiment.  Keep your guy in stitches with a funny birthday greeting card.  If you’ve been together a long time you, no doubt, have shared many laughs and inside jokes.  Pick a birthday greeting card that will not only wish your boyfriend a happy birthday but will give him a laugh he won’t forget.  There is no rule for picking out a funny birthday greeting card, but if it makes you laugh, chances are your guy will get a kick out of it, too.

Greeting Cards Especially for your Boyfriend

Does your guy like cars?  Dogs?  Artwork?  Take notice of your beau’s special interest and pick a birthday greeting card that highlights his hobbies and activities.  This birthday greeting card could be extra special if this is a pastime that you enjoy together.  Either way, your attention to your boyfriend’s interests can be a great birthday gift in itself.  Another great personalization is a photo greeting card.  Pick a favorite photo of the two of you and make it into a cute and unique card that will be long remembered.

The Romantic Birthday Greeting Card

You not only want to wish your guy a happy birthday, but you want to include a nice, sweet romantic note, too.  First of all, pick a card that is not too schmaltzy.  A birthday is a light, fun time and it might not be the best place for your deepest, most romantic feelings.  And most guys don’t go for over-the-top mushy romantic sentiments, especially on their birthday.  Keep it simple and genuine; ‘I love the way you make me laugh,’ ‘I love your smile,’ I can’t wait to spend a great birthday with you’ and you’ll get your simple and romantic message across. 

The Perfect Greeting Card

The perfect greeting card for your boyfriend is one that you pick and you know he will love.  The perfect birthday greeting card is not an email or text message. You’ll have to do better than that to make your birthday greeting memorable.  You need to take the time, pick out the card and spend a few minutes writing a birthday sentiment that you boyfriend will really appreciate.  It doesn’t have to be a work of art, just an honest birthday wish that shows you really took the time to make it special.

There is no rule to picking out the perfect birthday greeting card for your boyfriend.  Just follow your instinct and you’ll find the perfect birthday greeting card. 

Check out MyExpression.com for great birthday greeting cards.  You’ll also find perfect notes and note cards for any occasion.

Birthday means to take a birth. I forget what I was yesterday and I get birth again today. If you think of everyday as a birthday, because today is the first day of our remaining life, are you wrong? How about telling this to your sweetheart and sending an Ecard to wish happy birthday everyday?

After all what is love? Love means excitement. Love means to bring passion in life. Love means to do something new everyday to make your daring excited and fall in more love with you. Love is like a river that is flowing with full force and cuts through every obstacle in its path. How to create that love? One has to keep innovating. One has to think of new exciting ideas.

Innovate with birthday Ecards. Send one everyday to him/her and add a beautiful thought of your own. Let it be the first mail they open in the morning. Make the day for your darling everyday. As I said, innovate. It will cost you nothing. At no cost, you bring so much excitement in your love that others will envy you. Begin today. Is it not your darling’s birthday? Send a birthday Ecard now. Bring passion and excitement in your love life at every moment.

Love has to be kept alive at every moment. Love is not a pond that will remain still, but a river. Love needs to flow. Love needs expression and passion. Use romantic birthday Ecards everyday to bring lovely passion in your love life. Find out how?

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Whether you’re single, or dating, there have probably been a few times that you’ve stuck your size 12 foot in your mouth or have done something to make her unhappy. Well with the advice for guys we’ve put together, you can make sure that you never spend another night sleeping on the couch. If that does happen, these tips will help you limit the nights spent on the couch.

The first piece of advice for guys is really important and I am talking about dates. Dates are…important. Women love to celebrate special dates such as birthdays, anniversaries, or any excuse to extract attention. Not to sound redundant, but forgetting a birthday or anniversary is a huge blunder to which every male on the planet has succumbed. Unfortunately, the fact that your peers also forget birthdays should provide you with little comfort. In this advanced day and age with all the technology out there, all you have to do is program a reminder so you can run to the store at the last minute and get a gift. If you find yourself stuck with absolutely nothing to give, make her a card, pick up some flowers, give her something of yours, or find something that makes her feel special.

My second piece of advice for guys is, learn to be sweet. Being sweet doesn’t make you “whipped”; it makes you a guy who will be sure to please his girlfriend, wife, or friend! You know in the middle of the day when a thought pops into your head about your girlfriend? Well when that happens, call or text her and tell her you were thinking about her and thought you’d call. It’s simple and will take less than 2 minutes of your time. If you listen to nothing else, this piece of advice for guys will always work!

This next bit of advice for guys should be a no-brainer, but if it is not here you go; always be open and honest about your female friends. No matter how hot she is, tell your girl about this friend and let them meet early on. Trust me; you will be in a lot more trouble if you don’t tell your girlfriend about this friendship and even more trouble if you forget to tell her that your buddy looks like Gisele Bundchen. The fact that it never crossed your mind will not serve as a legitimate excuse.

This last bit of advice for guys is crucial. If your girlfriend, wife, mother, sister, or really any woman in general asks you that inevitable question, “how do I look” or “do I look fat in this?”, before you answer take the time to look at your woman with kind eyes and answer quickly. And no matter what your initial thought, the answer should always “beautiful”. Better adjectives include; breathtaking, stunning, and gorgeous. The point isn’t really to lie, but any hesitation or unnecessary comments will just upset her or send her back to the closet.

Losing someone that you’ve had a serious relationship with can be painful.  If you are missing your ex you can get them back into your life. You just need to know what and how to do it.  This article outlines free advice on how to get your ex back.  Following the 10 steps below can dramatically increase your chances in winning your ex back.

1.  You can phone your ex – but use discretion. Calling your ex once or twice every two weeks will keep you on their mind.  Calling 10 times a day screams of desperation.  Don’t do it!  You have to restrain yourself.  

2.  Send an email occassionally. Don’t flood their inbox with dozens of emails a week.  A simple message stating how are you? or what’s up? is sufficient.  Then give them a chance to respond.  Just like phone calls – excessive emails wreak of desperation.

3.  Use discretion if dating other guys/girls. If you are trying to win your ex back then now is not the time to play the field wrecklessly. How can you convince your ex that you seriously want them back if you are dating several times a week.  An occassional date is fine as it will show your ex that you are still desireable to other people.  Definitely do not sleep with someone new.  This just adds to the baggage and is difficult to overcome.

4.  Don’t forget their birthday. Just because you aren’t together you can still remember them.  Call them, send a card, buy them a gift. Birthdays are a great excuse to get together.  Treat them like they are your princess – it will pay off.

5.  Understand your ex. Listen and analyze what they say and do.  You need to know what your ex is looking for in a partner to know if you can deliver.  You have to be honest though.  If they are telling you they need something that you can’t deliver then do both of you a favor and back off.  

6.  Avoid jealousy. Once you break up you lose claim to your ex.  They are free to do what they want.  If they start dating other people don’t be jealous.

7.  How does your ex act with others? If they are defending you then there is hope that your ex still has feelings for you.  If they are fueling the fire with insults then perhaps it is too soon to try a reconciliation or there is no hope for a lasting relationship.

8.  Avoid playing “mind games.” What’s the point?  Playing emotional head games with someone you’ve broken up with can damage them for life. This kind of behaviour is not necessary and will not win you any points in getting back together with your ex.  

9.  Keep the upper hand. Stay in control of the situation.  This means don’t lay all of your cards out on the table at once.  If you give into your feelings too soon or too aggressively then you lose the upper hand and your ex gains control.  They may use your feelings to manipulate the situation.  

10. Be desireable. Don’t let yourself go after breaking up.  Now is the time to get into or stay in the best shape of your life.  You’ve already had a relationship with this person.  If you can make yourself more attractive and sexy the second time around you will become even more alluring to your ex.